Bella:
It’s been a long time since we’ve had an adoption update. We
have been on the match list for three months now. Every month I get to sit on a
call to hear about the match updates. Last week’s call was very encouraging. During
last month’s call there were about forty families waiting ahead of us. This
means that whenever the organization gets a child’s referral, they look first
to these families to see if they are a good match for the child. This month
they made over thirty matches bringing the number of families ahead of us to
only about 10!! This means we could be looking at a match any day now. It could
also take another month or two. It is dependent on a lot of factors, and our
organization said last month was an unusually busy month. However, it is still
very encouraging, and I have been having a hard time not expecting it to happen
next month. Next year we will be celebrating the holidays with our three kiddos
and everything will be different. So those prayer warriors out there please
pray for us. Pray that the matching staff will find the little girl that is
right for our family. Pray that the boys will have ready hearts to receive Bella
into their happy, little world, specifically Max who most of the time isn’t excited
for a little sister. Pray that we would have wisdom with dealing with all of
her unique needs, such as her medical needs, emotional needs, nutritional
needs, and so much more. We are very, very excited but as third time parents we
are also realistic that this will be a huge, difficult transition for all of
us. Parenthood is a sacrifice and a struggle and a joy every single day, and I
am thankful for the ability to be a mom.
Letting go:
One of the things that has made me happiest the last few
months has been Eli’s reaction to his first year of real, serious, learning how
to read and write school experience. I feel like I spent so much time the first
five years preparing my little boy for this moment in his life. Worrying about
why he wouldn’t interact during music class, reading to him every day to
instill in him a love for books, taking him on so many playdates to help him
interact with kids his own age, preparing craft and activities for him every
week to stretch his mind and encourage him to try a wider range of activities,
and so much more. And I am so happy to report that after all the hours and
hours and hours of effort and prayers and love and direction he is doing so
well. He loves school. He loves to learn and write and read. He loves homework.
He love the chance he has to be there and has never said a single negative
thing about school. It feels like such a
huge thing.
I read an awesome book that I recommend called, “Strong
Mothers Strong Sons,” and it says that raising our sons is a long progression
of letting them go with the first major one being them going off to school. I
feel this is very true. I drop him off for 6 hours a day and trust that his
wonderful teachers will take care of his needs and that if he needs something
he will step up and ask for it. This has been hard for me since I have spent the
last five years glued to his side. It also feels very good, and I love to hear
all the updates that he has for me once he gets in the car. I am also thankful
that I am not the one who is solely responsible for teaching him how to read “it,”
how to add, how to speak Spanish, how to play basketball, and so much more.
That is too much pressure for this momma who has a hard time not being too hard
on myself. ;-)
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